If you could have one wish, what would it be? Are you wishing for more time with your family and friends? Are you desperately wanting more gigs? Are you craving the feeling of winning a competition? Are you hoping for the stars to align to keep your singing gigs while you try to start or add to your family? I want you to have all the things you’re truly desiring. I want us all to have the things we yearn for. That’s why I write these posts. It is my sincere aspiration to make every musician’s dreams a little easier to attain through tools, resources, and knowledge. That is also why we are focusing on inner work during this series. I want the knowledge you have of yourself to open more doors to your deepest desires. When we know what we want, we have to make room for it in our lives.
Internal De-Cluttering
Make room for what you love is a popular de-cluttering mantra. The idea is that we get rid of all the crap and extraneous stuff that is filling up our physical space to interact with only the things that bring us joy and contentment. As part of our inner work, it’s time to do some de-cluttering. You can approach this idea physically like the books for organizing your house suggest. But, you can also think about making room for what you want internally and time-wise.
Maximize & Minimize
Think about your purpose as you define it. What do you need more of or less of to help you achieve that purpose? Feeling unsure? Go back to your answers from our “Pinpoint Your Values” post for guidance. Now, let’s make a list:
Maximize:
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Minimize:
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Chalkboard Method
The awesome ladies from Being Boss have a wonderful method for helping us make space for what we love. (Also, shout-out to the lovelies in the #DivaSquad for turning me onto this method in the first place.) Kathleen and Emily, of Being Boss, use The Chalkboard Method as a visual goal-setting tool that helps them make space and stay accountable to their goals and their values. I did my Q4 Chalkboard in my bullet journal the other day and I highly recommend you do the same!
Show Your Work
Okay, is it starting to sink in now that inner work is dependent on actually doing the work part? I hope so. Divas, set your timers. Think about your values and your day-to-day experience. Write out three specific things to maximize and three specific things that you want to minimize. Bonus points for any of you that take it one step farther and sketch out your own chalkboard method! Then, tell me about it! Did anything surprise you? Were you clearer on one area than another? You know I love hearing from you. So, drop me a line in the comments below or hit me up on Twitter. You’ll find me @mezzoihnen.
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